July 2013 - Advocacy Circle
The key component in healing your relationship after an act of unfaithful is truthfulness. Honesty is the one and only thing that restores trust, which is the most important component of your relationship.
In you want a really terrific marriage, and who doesn't, it's imperative that you both put your marriage first. That means that your relationship trumps children (most difficult to comprehend), work, friends, hobbies and your families of origin.
Premarital counseling identifies early challenges that have not yet taken root, which is the challenge with regular couples therapy. Explore your feelings and expectations about finances and lifestyle. Learn what your fiancé's priorities in life are. Uncover which values you each hold most dear.
While divorce counseling during the process of mediation or collaboration tends to be sad and sorrowful, a divorce that is acrimonious tends to cause anger and hurt. Rarely do I see a couple together, for divorce counseling, who are in the process of getting divorced using separate attorneys. It's too late for couples therapy.